Who truly knows us? Our best friends? Our family? Who do we share our thoughts and dreams with? Truthfully, we often don't brave exposing our deepest selves with most of the people who are close to us. And "close" is a term that is usually reserved for a few, but even those few seldom really know us well.
What it comes down to is that the person we are most transparent with is our love interest. And those of us who are not in a relationship are missing out on sharing our true selves.
I want to be known. To have someone be enthusiastic about who I am, how I think, what I love, how I feel. To know that I am the most important person to get to know at this moment in time, for SOMEONE. And I want to reciprocate all of this. I want to know someone intimately, and I am not speaking only of the physical aspect.
Perhaps this idea of being known is intimidating to some who would rather keep themselves in reserve, and that is fine for them. But not for me. I have changed. I am in love with life, and there is so much there to be in love with. I no longer stumble through fog thinking that if only I had someone to love, I'd see more clearly. I have learned how to see clearly on my own, and that is a gift to share.
Anyone who knew me before this unfogging was in my life for a reason, I know, and I am sure I chose them for some purpose that helped me get to this point. But now I have arrived HERE, and I am sometimes a bit impatient. I can see that we are all here for each other, so why is there so much sheltered protectiveness around each person I meet?
It has been said that familiarity breeds contempt, but I think boredom and laziness breed contempt. So those of you who feel I am wrong about being known, who have been attached in a relationship with another for a very long time, and think that you are trapped in some spiritless union, think again. It takes effort. It takes wanting to be known, and wanting to know. You have an opportunity to change the way things are. Start where you are.
It is a most wonderful feeling to know that you are important to someone, that they care about who you are. Keep that precious thought alive and don't get caught up in thinking that being alone is just great because you don't have to deal with anyone else's stuff or feelings or ideas. Relationships are truly what make life rich.
And as for me - whoever you are, out there, wherever you are: I want to be known by you. And I want to know you, too.
